TGIF and Three Brothers

TIGF and three brothers

Good morning friends.  Once again, Friday the magician showed up right on time.  I still have not figured how precise Friday is each week.

OK, so this was picture from a TGIF Vanessa and I tried to line up.  As you can see, it took 88 takes to get it right.  But the 3 brothers pulled together and we caught the picture we wanted.  That’s called teamwork.

OK, lets kick this day off with two positive notions and a Woody Allen Quote

1. If you woke up today, good, bad or indifferent its a gift.  We have to remember that.  Many people that were with us yesterday are no longer with us.  So wrap this gift of Friday up with a beautiful bow.

2. Here’s the Win Win about this Friday.  If you are having a lousy week, its about to end. If you are having a great week, you have one more day to make it even greater.

3. “I see the glass half full, but of poison, not water”     Woody Allen from the movie “Scoop”” in 2006.

And by the way, nobody knows NYC like Woody Allen.  I’m not saying that’s an important or historic point, nobody really cares about that,  But it happens to be true.

Happy Friday friends.  See you tonight.

How I got into New York University with terrible grades and a 960 on my SATs

NYU Sammy better and my story

How I Got Into New York University With Terrible Grades And A 960 On My SATs

Good evening friends. A great choice by many of you asking for the story about how I got into New York University with horrible grades in high school, and a low SAT score.

Let’s do a quick recap. Remember my father’s grading system, “F” was for Fun, “D” was for Dandy, “C” was for Courageous, “B” was for Bastard and “A” was for _ssholes.  And this worked well for my confidence through Junior High.  The problem was my that my father died on February 3rd, 1984.  This happened to have been my freshman year in High School.

My mistake in high school was maintaining my father’s unique grading system, especially being he was not there to back me up on it any longer.  So between that confusion, and the chaos going on with my mother and 5 sisters when he actually died, school was the furthest thing from mind.  Things were really bad for the Smith Family back then, law suits were flying everywhere, dissension in the household, and just a lot of hostility.
I was fortunate to have met a very sweet girl in tenth grade. She’s the one my crew used to call “Sweetie”, and she was the one that almost blew up with me, on the boat that my friends and I were on.   Nonetheless, when I was with her, all my problems faded away.  I was happy around her, and she took me away from all that chaos at home.   But the relationship was skewed, we were in love with each other, but she came from a normal household with no chaos.  So to her, I was just her boyfriend she was in love with.  To me, she was my girlfriend that I was in love with,  and also my escape from all the turmoil and chaos.
Until this day she probably never knew outside of being in love, what an important figure she was in my life as a whole. I was no ordinary teenager. I had the weight of the world on my shoulders and in my head, but just being with her removed all that in an instant.  Temporarily of course, once I returned home, the _hit was hitting the fan again.  Anyway, the point is I had two lives going on .
Moving on now through high school. Junior year and Senior year I didn’t give a _hit about school,  and just want to be with my girl.  Her father, who is a great man and until this day, I have great respect and affection for him, used to say, “Scott is way too intense for you.  You’re too young for such intensity in your life.”.   He was right. But my gal and I held the line anyway.
Now lets speed up to where everyone is applying to colleges in Senior year, and it was the topic of discussion every single day among the other kids.  I saw many people running through the halls screaming with excitement about being accepted to this good school or that good school, and I had seen many people cry because they didn’t get in the colleges they wanted to attend.

Here is where my problem started. Number 1, no college was accepting me.  Number 2, I didn’t  even know how to fill out a college application.   Now I was saying to myself, “Your dad’s grading system ain’t so good now, is it?” So, being my father had been a very successful commercial real estate broker in NYC, colleges used to ask him to come speak and give lectures to students about the real world.  One of the schools he regularly spoke at before he died was “CW Post” on Long Island where we lived.   So my mother went to see the people that my father used to know there, and asked them as a favor to accept me into their college.   And some of my late father’s former friends made that happen.  I was admitted into CW Post on Long Island.  It wasn’t a high ranking college, but it was a good college nonetheless and it has a beautiful campus.

CW Post had one caveat with me because of my disastrous high school career.  They admitted me, but on probation. Meaning instead of being allowed to take 15 credits in a semester, they only let me take 9 credits to start.  Now all of this ego blasting was starting to motivate me. So I took the three classes and got straight A’s through hard work.  The next semester they let me take the full 15 credits,  and I got straight A’s again with a 3.8 GPA. For the freshman year that was now over, I made Dean’s list.   Now I was in the groove of things and for the first time in my life didn’t feel like a screw up, and that felt really good.  Going on to the first semester of Sophomore year, I got straight A’s again with a 4.0 average.  CW Post then approached me, and asked me to be the President of the Honor Society for the second semester in my sophomore year.  Now I was giving speeches to hundreds of parents and high school students who were considering coming to CW Post.
So lets do the math.  I went from starting on Probation at CW Post, to becoming their marketing spokesman to draw more students to CW Post.  I felt really accomplished, I really did.  So I decided to apply to the “Leonard Stern School of  Business” at New York University for my Junior year, and I was accepted immediately.  So I transferred to NYU.  Now truth be told I still really didn’t care about school.  I just wanted to prove to myself that I wasn’t the bum everyone thought I was in high school.  So now I am at NYU in one of the best business schools in the country, and I was majoring in accounting.
NYU was different than most colleges.  There was no real college comradery.  You see, unlike schools like Penn State or Notre Dame,  where the colleges dominated the towns they were located in, NYC dominated New York University.  Meaning this, when I walked out of class into the street, I was just amongst all kinds of New Yorkers, not just students. There were business people walking around, lawyers, doctors, business conventions going on, and so on and so on.
 Anyway,  let me speed it up here. I immediately joined a fraternity when I got to NYU in order to meet people.  Because NYU was so dominated by NYC, I needed to connect with students somehow.  When I joined the fraternity, they asked me if I wanted to live in the fraternity house with the main guys and I said “hell yeah”.   Please don’t think of a fraternity at NYU like others, it was not, Greek / Fraternity life was very mild at NYU.

Within 2 months of my first semester at NYU,  I was called into the Dean’s office for poor grades and not showing up for classes very much.  When I went into the office, the dean was standing up looking out the window as I sat on his couch in the same room with him, waiting for him to say something to me.  So after 5 minutes of his deducing what the real story is here, he turned to me and said, “You transferred here from CW Post from their honor society. Within your first two months here, your classes are going terribly, and I am told you hardly ever go to class and you are in one of the fraternities on campus.  Is that correct Mr. Smith ?”.  I said, “Yes sir that is the truth.”

So he looked at me in the eyes and said” Scott, are you some sort of playboy or something? Is that why you have been so distracted?”.  So I said, “Mr. Dean”, or whatever his name was, “No, I am not a playboy. I have been in a relationship with the same young lady for 5 years”. Then he asked me how I would explain such a fall from grace, since I transferred to NYU as President of the Honor Society at CW Post?So I hit him with hardcore honesty that I don’t think he ever heard before in his life.  I told him how poorly I did in high school,  and how terrible I felt during my senior year, while all my friends were making plans for their new experiences, going off to college, and that I had no options.  So when I applied myself  and made Dean’s list for two years at CW Post, and then got into one of the best business schools in the country at New York University, I had achieved what i wanted.  I wanted to know I was not a bum.  Once i realized that, and that i was as capable as anyone else, I didn’t care about school or my grades anymore.  I went on to being even more direct, and said politely, ” I really am not interested in the things this university is teaching me at all.  I just want the degree from the Stern School of Business.”

My friends, the man almost fell over and had a heart attack.  He had never heard that from a student before.  He starting looking around his office,on the ceiling and on the floors just to verify he was not inside of a dream, or nightmare I should say. Now,  I am not encouraging that behavior for anyone.  But i knew there was no law that said I have to care about college once I was accepted  into college.  And my friends, I didn’t care at all.  But I did end up graduating with an accounting degree with an exact 2.0 average.  Anything less than that GPA and they won’t allow students to graduate until they get a GPA of 2.0, or higher.

 So my friends, that is how I went from horrible grades in high school, to one of the best business schools in the county, to being asked by the Dean of business if I was some sort of “playboy”. Looking back, I should have said to him, “No, I’m not a playboy, but I do like looking at boobies.”

I Hope you enjoyed that story my friends.  There are hundreds more to come over time.

 

Sincerely,  Scott Evan Smith

Thank you Life for allowing me to be part of you on August 19th, 2015

Leaf in the wind or stand your ground

Good evening friends.  Its great to be here with everyone.  I want to thank life for allowing me to participate in it on August 19th, 2015.  Day 220 here in Puerto Rico.  I’m finally beginning to pick up a little Spanish. I’m sure you all just fell over with such a substantial news report.

OK, returning to basics.  If you are going through troubled times, remember each day you wake up, you are a day closer to whats bother you, Not bothering you anymore.  And that’s good, hold onto that for momentum.  If things are going well for you, keep repeating what works.  We have to try to stay in the middle of the beam.  Too low is No good, and too greedy is the worst of all.  When its good, feel blessed, when its bad hold onto hope.

I hope everyone enjoyed The Debbie Gibson feature on “The Good News Channel”   — It was a very special feature for Sammy & Family, it really it meant a lot to us.

It’s funny recently some of my old Wall Street boys said to me; “When did you start getting interested in Journalism?” What happened to the equity trader” Scott Smith”  I said to them when I came out of college people used to ask me what I want to do with my life”  — And I told them I wanted to go where i can make the most money, I don’t care where that was.”  So they said, “Scott that’s’ a no brainer, go into Wall Street”  — So I did that, and they were right.  I could not believe how much money i was making and how fast i was making it.  I literally could have retired at 29 – 30 years old. And all of that added up to nothing.  None of the money or things I bought, or even my sweet wife at that time could fill the void that i refused to deal with.  So I kept chasing things, not just material, but anything, and I got them all, the cash and prizes, the women, and whatever else I wanted.

No matter what i accomplished or acquired I had become lonelier and lonelier with a wife almost as sweet as Vanessa, like I said, almost.  So inevitably I said to myself, “Nothing is making me happy, I must be unhappy in my marriage” — So I did the next Irrational thing, I blew up a perfectly good marriage.   I could not figure out why never nice guy with a lot going for him could not feel whole.  Eventually some very smart people told me I have to stop running after the next prize and just sit with myself.  I knew they were right, but I could Not sit with myself for one minute, so that was not an option.

It was then I brought the booze and all the other distractions to take me away from reality.  With that said my friends, eventually life is going to paint you in the corner and ask you; “Who are you without the people and things in your life?” Do you have an identity ?  Or is your identity tied to people knowing you exist and the things you have accumulated.

The only way out is through the way in.  If you can’t go inward, you can’t get outward. Your existence and life source flows from your feet to your head.  If you think it flows by others recognizing you or accepting you, then you will always be at the mercy of other people or other things.

Today my center is me.  If you can enhance my center and I can enhance your center, we should connect. But if I’m looking for you to give me my center, or you’re looking for me to give me your center, then we have a time limit on our relationship.  Don’t mistake these words for friends and family not giving support to each other during the tough times. But away from that, support or no support, its your own feet that must hold your ground and keep you standing up.

In conclusion friends, are you the leaf in the wind that lands randomly where the wind takes you? Or do you plant your poles in the mountain in the place you feel a sense of home and comfort.

As a man in his forties who made more mistakes then several countries made together, I can say that my center cannot be thrown off by anyone or anything.  Not because I am a tough guy, but only because the only creator of my center is me. To be thrown off course because of fear or greed is an illusion.  As for me the illusions are nothing more then smog that can be blow away with a 25 dollar fan.  My truth and center is unshakable and unbreakable.

Goodnight friends.  Scott Smith & Dr.Harp Seal for Sammy & Family.

Poppy Tuesday on August 18th, 2015

Poppy Tuesday on August 18th, 2015

Good morning friends.  Happy Poppy Tuesday.  A day filled with Hope and Possibilities.  Patrick has become the ultimate  Poppy, so much so, I hardly call him Patrick or Patreeko anymore.

I love Poppy Tuesday’s.  It always humbles and grounds me.  Vanessa and I think God that same odds of winning the lottery and running into Patrick 2 years ago were basically the same, and it happened.  We walked out of the apartment that day with no intention on having a 3rd dog, now 5 of course. but meaning in NYC in this case.

As I have mentioned I let Poppy get away with everything.  He such a broken heat when I met him and now his heart is strong as a lion.  Those my friends are the miracles that change the world.  Not the whole world, but it changed Poppy’s and Sammy & Family’s world, and last I checked we are in the world.  So in conclusion as we always say: Nobody can change everything, but everyone can change something.

Together we stand, divided we fall.  This land is their land, this land is our land, this land is made for them and us.

Signing off from my Puerto Rico on Day 213, Dr. Harp Seal for Sammy & Family.  See you tonight friends.

Sammy wants to offer you peace and tranquility tonight

Former misery addict

Good evening friends.

Sammy came by to offer everyone some peace and tranquility tonight. We know how starting Monday’s can me.  It takes me back to the Placebo Effect Principal.  I mean Monday is really just another day in the week like any other day.  But we hear it over and over again in our lives about how terrible Monday’s are.  And you know what they say, if you say something long enough and loud enough, people will eventually believe it.

So lets eradicate some of the nonsense.  Here’s one reason why Monday’s are great for you to have.  For one thing, many people passed away on Sunday and didn’t make to Monday. Another thing is, its a new start to the week to correct some of thing that went wrong last week.  Another reason is without Monday’s we would not appreciate Friday’s so much.

OK, enough on that.  Let’s close with two positive notions.

1. Referring to an old Chinese Proverb, “If you fall seven times, get up eight times.

2. When I’m exhausted is when I fight best, because that’s when I have to fight the smartest.  — Dr. Harp Seal —

Love you friends. Nobody is alone. You have Sammy & Family.  We don’t just talk the talk, we walk the walk.  We have been through a lot of shit, pardon my language and we made it through to other side.  Now we owe it to people to show them the way out of darkness as well.  We don’t promise always happy times, but we guarantee hope.  And from hope, life is limitless.

My name is Scott Smith, a former misery addict whose glasses were upside down.  God’s grace put my glasses right side up. And if i can be of service to make anyone feel just a little better, then I will do so.

No lives will go in vain, no pain will go unnoticed.  Amen. Dr. Harp Seal for Sammy & Family.

You Don’t have to love everything to realize what you have

Good morning friends.  Today’s message is;  “You don’t have to lose everything to realize what you have.  You can watch video just below, or the the text version below the video.  Powerful message for all of us

Good morning friends.

Dr. Harp Seal here. I want to discuss a common mistake by many people.  This one has cost me dearly and senselessly in life. You don’t have have to love everything to realize what you have.  Its important to take stock of whats good in your life before impulsively throwing it away because you’re having a bad moment.

If you are not happy with who you are inside, other people or external things can only fill that hole for a short period, if it all.  So where am I going with this ? Here’s where;  Before making substantial life changes, think it through.  Are you really unhappy with these circumstances, or are you unhappy with yourself ?  Ask yourself, when i make these changes, will i feel the same emptiness in a short while ?

Because i can tell you from experience, chasing some other relationships or some other external things can be very fleeting.  But when you’re grounded and happy with yourself, then you can really take a look at things for what they are. Remember, you are your source for happiness. Anyone else or anything else should only enhance that.

Have a great Monday everyone.

How to Eradicate the Sunday Night Blues

Eradication the Sunday Night Blues

Good evening friends.

Dr. Harp Seal has found the the solution for the “Sunday Night Blues”  —  Its very practical, actionable and effective.

Take a trauma surgeon for example. Each night the surgeon has no idea what’s coming through those doors, people with knife wounds, car accidents, people choking on food, shark bites,  and so on and so on. But the Trauma surgeon knows one thing for certain, whatever comes through those doors,  he can handle it. Even if it’s an injury he has not experienced before, he knows he’ll rise to the occasion.

Now let’s extrapolate that to the people stressing out on a Sunday night about the coming Monday morning. You see, most people are thinking upside down or in reverse with respect to Monday mornings. On Sunday nights, we’re not supposed to know what Monday will bring. What we’re supposed to know is that we can handle whatever Monday morning throws at us, good or bad.

So when we give ourselves a break from the fact that we can’t possibly know what’s coming the next day, it relaxes the mind and body. We’re not supposed to feel bad that we can’t predict what will happen the next day. That’s a false pretense to be working from on the onset.

The Sunday Night Blues is an illusion.  Its fear based with no real substance behind it.

No matter what day of the week tomorrow is, let’s just be hopeful we get that gift.

Signing off from Puerto Rico, Scott Smith for Sammy & Family.

The Empire State Building and Sammy

Good morning friends.  It was only a week ago that The Empire State Building hosted their historic event for endangered species. We figured to do a nice write up on this larger than life building and Sammy’s first class visit 4 Years Ago from the lobby to the very top. The official opening date of the Empire State Building was May 1st, 1931.  It remained the tallest building in NYC for 40 years until the Twin Towers were built. It took only one year and 45 days to build.  It took almost 7 million man hours to build.  There are observation decks on both the 86th floor and the 102nd.  Over 4 million visitors a year come to visit this bigger than life building.  The total height of the building is 1, 450 feet. I mean it’s literally in the clouds.

Sammy Empire

As I have mentioned to all of you before,  I was a trader for over 20 years on Wall Street.  But my first job on Wall Street was a cold caller, yes the young man that would not let you off the phone.  Be that as it may, my phone skills are unstoppable, unless of course you hang up on me which plenty of people did and do. So i called up the media department over Four Years Ago, and I said I would like to do a photo shoot at The Empire State Building for my website. They said terrific, lets get you set up.  So we were exchanging information and she asked me describe what kind of pictures I wanted for the article I was going to write.  I told her I wanted to take pictures of Sammy at all the hot spots in the building and particularly on the Observation Decks on Floor 86 and floor 102.

Esb sammy 3

So she said; “Scott who is Sammy?”  I said he’s  my 10 pound Pomeranian dog, he just loves adventures.  So the nice young lady said; “There are no dogs allowed in the Empire State Building.  So i said to myself; “OK Scott, time to break out the old calling skills from Wall Street”  —  So I said; “Young Lady, in this particular sense you can’t really look at him as a dog, in this case he’s a spokesman for “The Empire State Building” in NYC.  My website is going to do a featured story on the worlds most famous building sending more traffic to the building and that traffic will buy tickets to go to the observation decks.  And I repeated “Its really not a dog coming to the building, its a project.  The dog is just part of the project” — And I followed it up with one more closer, “Projects are allowed in the building, right?”  So this sweet young gal said, I wont mention her name, but she said: “Mr. Smith when would you like to come in for the photo shoot?”  — And without hesitation, I said” Tomorrow morning”

Empire Sammy

So my friends, other then an animated King Kong in 1933 at the top of The Empire State Building, Sammy Smith, the 10 pound Pomeranian to my knowledge is the only dog that was ever allowed in the greatest building ever.  Wait, wait, I just said “dog” — I meant to say “Project”  — A great New York lesson for our friends around the world.  Its all about semantics.  You say “Tomato” and i say Tomahto.   And with that, Sammy the project got to see the Empire State Building with first class personal tour.  They were literally creating restricting areas inside the building for my website to get the pictures I needed.

Sammy Empire

As I told you my late father was a commercial real estate broker in NYC.  So his job was to move companies from one building to another should a company decide to have their offices somewhere else.  During his years of being a commercial broker he showed prospective tenants many different spaces for lease inside the Empire State Building. But funny enough, the first time I saw this Iconic building was in the 1933 movie with King Kong climbing up it.  And no, I did Not actually see it in 1933 being that I was born in 1969.  King Kong was one of those movies they played ever year until the more recent ones were made like in 1976,  and then  another one in the New Millennium.

Empire Sammy

Its located on 5th Avenue between 33 and 34 street. Prime real estate for the world’s’ most famous building.  Many a times I have stood right in front of The Empire State Building and looked straight up and because its so tall, I almost fell over to keep looking up and up to find the top of it.  If you are in NYC, you must visit The Empire State Building.  Put it first on your list.