Good evening friends.

This morning we posted this quote by yours truly; ” Trying to do anything in Moderation is like being friends with your ex-girlfriend” — Tonight we are going to dive in on the Quandary and Quagmire of being friends with an ex girlfriend or boyfriend. Here we go;

Let me break this down from my own personal experience. This doesn’t mean I’m right; I’m just sharing my experiences. So it goes something like this; after you and your partner break up, we go through the stages of devastation, anger, and acceptance. Then we make it through.

Time marches on and you meet someone else. After a few months of courtship and the whole 9 yards, you are in a full-fledged relationship with the good and the bad with the new person. One day you run into your ex and the two of you could not be more polite to one another. You see after we get over the person, they still have a great deal of value to us. What is that value exactly? It’s the fact that they know you inside and out. And now that the anger has dissipated, you feel a sense of familiarity and safety around them.

The next thing you know is that you and your ex are calling and texting each other to get advice on both of your current relationships. Low and behold as you are conversing with each other back and forth about how to handle your new partners, you both realize, wow we know each other so well, it’s like why did we break up in the first place?
In the next phase you both unwind your current relationships and not because of each other, just because the new partners were not really right for either of you.

Next, being you and your ex were here for each other during the most recent break up, the two of you start spending more “friend time” together. After a couple of weeks, the two of you are saying you’re just friends even though you’re both behaving like your back in a relationship. Finally, both of you drop the foolish semantics and enter into a serious relationship again.

After 6 months, the two of you break up again for the same reasons that it didn’t work the first time. And now friendship is off the table for good. Both of you realize you can’t be around each other on any level. In conclusion, you lost the new relationship you had with the second person, and now you both lost a friend in each other from your original relationship.

So what’s the point Scott? I’m tired of rambling. The point is what’s done is done. If the new relationship does Not work, it shouldn’t be because you have one foot still stuck in the last relationship or friendship; however you choose to refer to the original ex.

The same is to say I won’t eat in a restaurant where I once got food poisoning. I won’t deliberately break a bone in my body that was once broken before and I won’t play Karen Carpenter songs on a rainy Monday while I am driving over the George Washington Bridge.

Friends, I can only speak from personal experiences. Take all of this with a grain of salt. The same is to say, don’t pour salt on your wounds, lol. Peace out my animal loving friends. I hope you found this story stimulating or at least interesting. For those that didn’t, remember I only got a 960 on my SAT’s; also I have ADD, ADHC and a slight case of Dyslexia. So cut me a break, lol.

Signing off from Puerto Rico on day 193, Scott Evan Smith for Sammy & Family.